A conspiracy from a rival is a powerful rite of love magic, with which you can get rid of a lover and save your family. Subject to strict adherence to the rules of the ritual, it will be effective even if the identity of the competitor is unknown.

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Rules for reading conspiracies and conducting rituals

The basic rules for reading prayers and ritual spells include:

• text pronunciation accuracy;
• a clear statement of your goal;
• ultimate calm at the time of the ceremony;
• the absence of anything distracting;
• focus on how to do well for yourself, and not bad for another;
• use of all necessary items;
• the presence in the house of at least one icon, and church candles of different colors.

It is impossible to carry out rituals from a rival in the form of entertainment, as well as:

• in a state of alcoholic intoxication;
• during menstruation;
• during pregnancy.

Who Should Pray?

You should pray:

1. God, because prayers to him are effective and safe. They help to get rid of negative emotions and protect yourself and your family from the harmful influence of your mistress.
2. Paraskeva Pyatnitsa - the patroness of the hearth. When a woman performs a prayer service, fully concentrating on her love for a man, the saint will hear and help.

Prayers to God

Prayers to God:

• they read in the morning and in the evening at home, if desired, combining with rituals;
• they do to cleanse themselves of bad thoughts and feelings;
• help to forgive the betrayal of her husband, forget about the past and start living anew.

Lord, have mercy on them, for they do not know what they are doing.

Prayer to God for an evil person:

Lord, bless Thy servant (name) with Thy grace.

Prayer for the reconciliation of people:

Lord Lover of mankind, the King of the Ages and the Giver of the Good, who destroyed the enmity of the mediastinum and gave peace to the human race, grant peace to Your servants (names), root Your fear in them, and affirm love for each other: quench all strife, take away all disagreements temptations. For you are our peace, and we send glory to you, the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit, now and forever, and forever and ever. Amen.

Prayer to God for deliverance from a rival:

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God. Do not be angry at my request, but do not remain silent either. Help me get rid of the rival who divorces me from the man I love. Forgive her all sins and do not punish hotly. If you allowed separation, give me the strength to get better soon. If he is my man, return him with bright grace back to the family. May your will be done. Amen.

Appeal to Paraskeva Pyatnitsa

You need to address Paraskeva Pyatnitsa like this:

Most Holy Blessed Martyr Paraskeva Pyatnitsa, guardian of the Christian faith, the image of purity! Hear me, sinful servant of God (name) and do not leave me in my sorrows! Do not be angry at my request, but give me mercy and your great help. Take the rival away from my husband's love, pulling him to her, tempting him to sin. Help him overcome temptation, enlighten him with the light of grace and do not let him wallow in sin. Turn him back to me, for my feelings are strong and sincere, and our union is honest. With your holy prayers, be a helper to me, a sinner, for I am weak in spirit and weak before this misfortune. May the rival of our life not touch, may God forgive her sins and do not punish hotly. I trust in your help, I believe in the boundless mercy and justice of God. Amen.

Conspiracies for the lapel of a lovebird and the return of a loved one

Conspiracies are considered the most effective for the lapel of a homeowner and the return of a loved one:

• for salt;
• on the picture;
• held on a full moon.

Salt Conspiracy

A conspiracy for salt is used only at the beginning of a relationship between a husband and a mistress. Helps to remove the rival forever, cooling her feelings and quarreling with a man.

To conduct the ceremony, salt should be spoken like this:

I speak salt against a rival-razluchnitsa (her name). Let the servant of God (his name) not look in her direction, do not reciprocate. Like this salt is salty, so let it not be sweet to him. Amen.

Salt is added to men's food every day, and the more he eats, the faster his rival cools down to him.

Conspiracy in the photo

A conspiracy from a rival in the photo is designed to cool a man’s feelings for another woman, to arouse in him hostility and disgust for her. A ritual is performed with a church candle over a photograph of her husband.

A candle is lit and the following text is pronounced:

I will light a candle in the night, I will take my beloved from trouble, I will take away the passion of my beloved for the evil lover. I will take away the spell of witchcraft, I will put a seal on your love. Let his heart freeze, let the soul of the beloved (name) leave her (name) forever. Let the heat of the heart freeze, and the flesh of comforts leave him. As soon as the candle flame goes out, he will take your love with him into the night. In the eyes - salt, on the heart - a stone, the road to it - a needle. Take a step - and pain, cast a glance - salt in your eyes. As she said, let it be so!

While the candle is burning, repeat the plot 40 times. Then hide the photo and tell no one about it.

Full moon conspiracy

For a full moon conspiracy, you will need natural wax and a black candle.

Before the ceremony begins, say:

Kastanami Abu Kastanami Takasa Fami Abu Ravi Kastanami.

Then, on a full moon, a figurine is molded from wax, and the name of the rival is written on a black candle. After the black candles, the figure is melted, while uttering the magic words.

As I melt this wax, so the influence of (the name of the rival) on (the name of the beloved) is melted.

At the end, the candle is left to burn out, and the melted wax is poured into the street, saying:

As I throw this wax away, so I throw it out of his life.

white magic

The use of white magic is an effective method to eliminate an opponent from a distance. At the same time, the effect comes quickly - the husband returns to the family and leaves thoughts of betrayal.

The most powerful rituals are considered:

• with husband's shirt;
• to return to the family;
• to the waning moon.

The shirt conspiracy

Take the husband's worn shirt, put it on the matrimonial bed and cover it with a pillow.

Then whisper:

I will take the heart of a servant of God (name), I will carry it to the cold in the ice kingdom, in the cold state. So that the servant of God (name) did not love the servant of God (name), cooled his heart, did not wear it in his heart. In the ice kingdom, in the cold state, there is an ice hut, in the hut there is an ice wall, an ice window, an ice oven. The devil and the devil fight, pinch, bleed, they don’t think, they don’t advise advice. So the servant of God (name) with the servant of God (name) would fight and pinch, get angry and swear, he would not think, he would not advise advice. From now on, century after century. Amen.

After that, you need to take a shower and rub the body with a pillowcase taken from the pillow that covered the shirt. The rite will not only cool the feelings of the rival and husband, but also make the latter feel the same attraction to his wife.

Divination for the return of her husband to the family

Divination for the return of the husband to the family is done as follows:

1. Walking down the street and accidentally stumbling upon animal excrement, they utter a conspiracy.
2. Then spit three times over the shoulder.
3. They walk away without looking back.

You can get rid of an opponent with the following words:

The husband walked and walked, got into shit and got his sight. The rival (name) is as old as a grandmother, terrible as death, stupid as a cork, nauseating as shit. Seeing her is disgusting. Sleeping with her is disgusting. The only thing left is to go home.

Ritual for the waning moon

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15. There are various tests, and one of them is the infatuation of one of the partners with another person. Most often, it is men who face this temptation. What is the reason for this behavior - nature or the desire to assert itself - is not known. Forgiving your man and trying to improve the relationship or completely delete him from your life is up to you. If you are ready to fight for your loved one, then we will gladly share with you tips, how to get rid of a rival and improve relationships.

    The first thing you should remember if you decide to return a man - do not discuss what is happening with relatives and friends, especially your plan to get rid of a rival. Of course, it is difficult to keep everything in oneself, and in any case it is necessary to relieve the soul, but just don’t immediately run to your friends, sisters or mother and don’t bring down all this information on them. Share your worries and doubts about the current situation with people who are not part of your usual social circle - this can be communication on a forum or with a psychologist.

    The fact is that your man's infatuation can be temporary, and he deliberately keeps everything a secret, because he does not want to ruin your relationship. He just wanted new sensations and emotions and he decided to start a romance for a while. Of course, such behavior is selfish, but such are men - they have a different logic. And if you decide, despite his passion for another woman, to keep the relationship, then try not to talk about it with close and mutual friends.

    And don’t tell your beloved that you know about his romance, try to listen to him more, make it clear that you love him, that he is dear to you. Just do not go too far here - do not humiliate yourself in front of him. Get rid of the desire to please him in everything. You are an independent and strong person - remember this. And how to act in this situation, we will tell you.

    Getting rid of a rival

    For any woman, the appearance of a rival is a severe stress and has a strong impact on self-esteem. Because of this, many immediately begin to look for the cause of what happened in themselves, and as a result, a terrible feeling of guilt appears, which simply “eats” you from the inside. If a man is carried away by another woman, this does not mean that you are worse than your rival or do not suit him at all. Such thoughts should be immediately driven out of your head as soon as they appear there. It is not your fault that a man was drawn to vivid emotions and experiences.

    So forget about suffering and tears - it will not lead to anything good for you. Start loving yourself - do something nice for yourself that you have long dreamed of, start realizing plans that you didn’t have time for before. All these actions will be extremely useful for you, a kind of therapy or rehabilitation course, the purpose of which is to develop respect and love for your own person. Only after you regain your self-esteem, feel more confident, forget about tears and anguish, you can proceed to eliminate your opponent. Our advice will allow you to get rid of it forever.

    Play with contrasts

    The essence of this method is to provoke a man to start comparing your actions with the actions of your rival. This opposition can give you a lot more advantages than a clear and active conquest. This happens for the reason that a man has fewer expectations for you than for your rival. If you subtract his expectations from what you and your rival give your loved one, then from this point of view you will become a clear leader.

    And to further consolidate your leadership, you should give your lover more than a rival can give. For example, to be more caring, more attentive, more interesting to talk to. To achieve this, act as if the man has already become yours, has already made a choice in your favor. But be careful with the manifestation of care and attention - try to find the moment when your care and attention will be most appropriate.

    It is desirable that your behavior towards a man be filled with love. Become more generous with warm looks, sincere compliments, a smile, souvenirs for, and sometimes for no reason. Your lover should receive all this from you in greater quantities than from a rival.

    In addition, let him demonstrate his best male qualities more often. For example, never refuse when he offers you to carry heavy bags, gives you a hand when you get out of the car, you can even ask him to drive in a nail. But do not overdo it with requests for help - a man should feel like a benefactor, not a free labor force.

    If you decide to use this method to get rid of your opponent, then try to remain within the bounds of decency and not “hang yourself” around your lover’s neck. You don’t need to make obvious competitions out of all this with your hated rival and do everything in a race - this approach is not beneficial for you. Neither he nor she should guess that you want to return your lover or draw his attention to yourself.

    If at this stage it is still very difficult to compete with an opponent, it is difficult to achieve a clear contrast in your favor, since she does everything perfectly on her own, then you may have to wait a bit. Wait for the moment when she “relaxes” and the man begins to feel a lack of attention and care, and then start acting - your efforts will be met more than favorably.

    Get rid of your rival gradually but surely. To achieve the desired contrast, try to analyze her actions and character, if possible, and give the man something that she cannot or does not want to give, or perhaps simply does not know that he needs it. Another option is to determine what she “overdoes” in a relationship, and behave in the opposite way. This tactic will help you defeat even the most attentive and caring opponent. Take your time, follow the chosen strategy - and success will become much closer.

    When you give a man more love, attention, care and understanding than your rival gives, you thereby confuse him, make you compare you with her. And it’s not the principle “the more the better” that works here, but the simple logic of things - the woman with whom your lover is now meeting should give him all the best and in more quantities than anyone else. This is her, one might say, duty, like his girlfriend. But since you are superior to her in this regard, it means that she cannot cope with her duty. A man will definitely notice this and draw the appropriate conclusions - he will think about who is actually more dear to him.

    Re-interest your loved one

    It is difficult to please your beloved again, but it is possible. Once you have already interested him in something, then you can interest him again. Try to pay attention to your demeanor, appearance, hobbies, and start to truly love yourself, because if you don’t love yourself, then no one, as you know, will love you.

    Become independent and more independent, because such women are much more interesting to men than helpless and completely devoted themselves to their beloved. Despite the fact that men try to make us resigned and complaisant, in fact they will prefer a girl who represents an accomplished personality, and is not just a shadow of a loved one. If at the moment you do not have an interesting job that would bring you satisfaction in addition to money, then now may be the time to change that. So you will become not only financially independent, but also get an excellent opportunity for self-realization.

    However, in the pursuit of financial independence, you need to remember one important rule: you must show a man from time to time that you need him, that you still consider him smart, reliable and strong. Such behavior on your part will increase his self-esteem and cause a desire to patronize you.

    To re-win a man, you can try to use his possessive instinct - let him know that he is not the only man in the whole world. Does he lead a fun life, meet friends? So why should you sit at home and wait for him to finally turn his attention to you? Go to a party with your friends, have a bachelorette party with your girlfriends, meet up with friends, go on a trip and the like. A man must see that there is something else in your life besides him, in particular, other men. You can go on a date with a nice guy - this way you will not only have fun, but also increase your self-esteem.

    Always remember that you are a unique person with your own personality, so do not limit your own interests to caring for your beloved. Men will not appreciate this - they do not understand sacrificial love. A new interesting hobby will cheer you up and your position in the eyes of a man.

    Radiate positive, because it is very pleasant for men to look at a happy smiling woman. Whereas heartbroken, depressed and sad girls cause nothing but pity in them - and love and pity have nothing in common. Learn to be happy regardless of external circumstances and people around you. This will not only help to attract the attention of a man, but will also be very useful to you in life.

    Surprise your beloved

    Your beloved man wanted new vivid sensations and he decided to find them on the side? Your task is to show him that he is mistaken, and everything that he is looking for in another woman, he can get with you. Of course, you will need to make changes in your lifestyle and your relationships.

    To get started, review your wardrobe, including home clothes. What do you wear at home? Bathrobe, knitted dress, which is not a pity, sportswear? You can be sure that the rival walks around in front of your lover in a completely different way - sexy underwear, silk and lace robes, tight-fitting dresses. She thinks she already got rid of you, but she is mistaken - you can look just as good too. Throw out all the things that do not emphasize the dignity of your figure, and get new, more feminine and sexy clothes.

    Next, you should correct your behavior - men appreciate affection in women. Become an affectionate cat that looks at him with a loving look and is able to anticipate desires. Forget about reproaches and quarrels - reveal your feminine nature. But remember that everything is good only in moderation - excessive obsession and care can irritate a man and scare him away.

    Don't forget about the sexual side of the relationship. Perhaps, at the moment when he has another woman, he will try to avoid intimacy with you - do not be too persistent, be wiser. Put on sexy lingerie, and on top of an equally attractive silk robe, do your hair - you definitely will not go unnoticed. You can start a conversation about sex, suggest experimenting with caresses, or watch a spicy video.

    You can refresh and diversify intimate relationships in many ways. We will not go into details now, because you know your man better, and you know better what novelty will attract him more. You can read articles on the relevant topic, watch erotic films for general development, visit a sex shop for inspiration and buy a few toys or some kind of costume there.

    Make friends with your rival

    This strategy is perfect for you if you know how to understand people well. In this situation, you act as a diplomat, i.e. you are playing a very subtle game without revealing your intentions. First, never show your lover that you know or suspect that you have a rival. Your goal is to find a common language with your opponent and make friends with her. Remember that you are playing a double game and do not give yourself away to either him or her. You need to first win the trust of your opponent, and only then you can move on to a decisive attack.

    Having become close to the new passion of your beloved man, try to influence her actions towards him. According to one Chinese proverb, a man looks for a woman when he is down and finds another one when he is well. These words may not always be perceived as true, but in some cases they are true.

    Let's say you found out about the secret relationship of your lover. Do not reveal this secret under any circumstances. If the girl is familiar to you, then it will be easier to act, but if not, then nothing prevents you from “making friends” with her. When you enter into her confidence, you can proceed to action. For example, you can tell her about your relationship with your boyfriend (after all, she does not realize that you are aware of their secret relationship), deliberately distorting the facts about his preferences. mean? And is it good to beat a man from you?

    Friendship with a rival who gets in the way of your relationship will give you a clear advantage. Since she will always be in your mind, you will be able to better know the features of her character and plans for your lover. If by nature she is a conqueror and is not going to give up just like that, then do not rush to despair - we are getting rid of her slowly but surely, continuing to conduct our partisan activities. Try to avoid revelations and do not forget to control your actions and actions, as your rival may also try to manipulate you for her own benefit.

    If your rival is quiet and peaceful, then the chances that she herself will go aside, realizing that she has encroached on someone else's happiness, are very high. You can go the other way and give a man the opportunity to find out about your friendship with a rival. At first, of course, he will be frightened - psychologically it will be difficult for him to deceive you. In this case, there is a chance that he, on his own initiative, will end the relationship with her.

    This strategy has one big disadvantage - in some cases, girls become real friends. With such an outcome, you will most likely lose a man, but on the other hand, you will find a loved one in the face of a rival. Here everything depends only on you. To successfully use this strategy, you need to be patient and restrained, and if you do not know how to hide the truth, then you better go the other way.

    Make your opponent jealous

    Do not forget that your rival is also a woman, so she is also not alien to a sense of jealousy and ownership. If at first she may endure that she is not the only one in a man's life, then later she will want to change this situation and tie him to her. And men don't like it very much.

    You can artificially accelerate the manifestation of these unpleasant qualities in her by “marking” your territory. The smell of your perfume on a loved one's shirts, a lipstick mark, your hair in a car or on his clothes, a forgotten thing (preferably intimate) in his jacket pocket or in a car. The opponent must know about your existence and never forget about it. You can "accidentally" catch her eye, walking in an embrace with your "common" man, while showing tenderness and love for him - let him think that everything is fine in your relationship. You can be sure that if the opportunity arises, she will certainly make him a scandal.

    A conspiracy to salt to remove an opponent works like a strong quarrel. A strong conspiracy from a rival, well-read for salt, will make the rival leave your loved one and never approach him again. Even if you don’t know the name of your opponent, the conspiracy will help you quickly eliminate her, yes, this is a really strong rite to eliminate a rival that helps to quarrel with your beloved husband or man. Magic will make her leave your lover and he ceases to interest her. This is the best conspiracy for salt from a rival that can be read without candles and without photographs, and this conspiracy works at a distance

16. To separate a husband from his mistress so that they hate each other, swear and quarrel, a strong conspiracy against his mistress will help. For this conspiracy, you need to know the name of the homeowner - this is enough for the mistress to become disgusted with your husband and quickly fall behind him herself. You need to read the text of the conspiracy near the church, standing on the street at the entrance to the temple. A prerequisite for a conspiracy against a mistress is to choose a time when the service in the church is over and the day does not fall on a big church holiday. Having guessed the moment, go to the temple and read the words of the conspiracy against the husband's mistress who will quarrel them forever:

17. No need to search on Avito how to get your husband back, use this sure way. Quickly return a husband from a rival to his family with the help of magic will help this quick conspiracy to return a husband. This is perhaps the fastest and surest way that works flawlessly and will definitely be able to return a walking husband to his family with his wife and children, even after a divorce. A return plot on a husband should be read at home when the husband is at a distance and you don’t even know exactly where he is. You don’t need this, the conspiracy will affect your husband at any distance and quickly make him return. For this conspiracy, no candles or photographs are needed, in order to return the husband from his mistress, his underwear is needed - in simple terms, these are his underpants that he wore at least once.

18. To remove a love spell, you need to make a lapel from a rival. If you have bewitched your beloved boyfriend or even worse your husband and the family is collapsing, you need to urgently turn away from your rival. How to conduct a lapel ritual on your own, but keep in mind that the magical ritual below is very strong and requires special conditions that should never be neglected. Prepare a church candle and a ritual knife with a wooden handle, which must be washed in seven waters before the lapel

19. Quickly getting rid of a rival and removing her influence on a man or husband helps an immediate conspiracy on a rival that will instantly quarrel with your loved one forever cooling their feelings. In order to preserve relations with a husband who has a mistress, all the most effective methods of getting rid of a rival are used, and magic helps best of all. There are strong rituals and prayers to eliminate a rival, many of them are instant. How to get rid of a rival to permanently remove her from the life of a spouse? Strong conspiracies for an opponent

20. A conspiracy from a rival to a piece of paper will forever help get rid of a homeowner and remove a rival from a loved one - a husband or a man. In order for the rival to send off the man (husband) herself, at a distance from her lovers, an immediate conspiracy is made to get rid of the rival "quarrel". A conspiracy to get rid of an opponent with the help of paper and wind is a simple but at the same time the most powerful rite that you can do yourself and get rid of your opponent forever at a distance. A strong conspiracy against a homeowner will help not only get rid of a rival

21. An old cold spell to eliminate a rival can be done if the name of the rival is unknown. The rite for a lapel from a rival is the best magical means of how to quickly and permanently eliminate a homeowner and return your loved one to yourself. How to fight back and return your beloved man from a rival if you don’t know her name? When all the known methods of persuasion have already been tried, but the rival still stubbornly stands in your way, holding the man near her, and you don’t even know what name the rival has and there is no photo of her. This strong conspiracy for a rival without the name of a homeowner

22. The strongest conspiracy on a rival for a quarrel with a loved one works at a distance and helps to permanently eliminate the rival by forcing her to quarrel with your husband or man. A conspiracy against an opponent, even without a photo, acts immediately after reading. How to eliminate an opponent from a distance, this conspiracy to quarrel with an opponent, acting immediately and done without a photo of an opponent, is the best way to use white magic without consequences and harm to save a family, love and relationships with a loved one forever quarreling him with a rival that has appeared

23. Strong conspiracies to eliminate a rival will help remove a rival from a distance, once and for all driving her away from her beloved man or husband. A plot to eliminate a rival without her photo can be read at home to quickly remove a rival from her beloved. You can read the most effective conspiracy to eliminate a rival at a distance to protect your spouse from infidelity. To cool the sudden feelings of a man for another woman, you need to read a strong conspiracy to eliminate the rival to the castle

Before embarking on the task of getting rid of a rival, answer a couple of questions for yourself, just be extremely honest:

• Are you sure that the problem is in the rival, and not in your man. Maybe he is not constant by nature, windy and is fond of every new "skirt"? If so, then this woman will soon be replaced by the next one, then another one ... Are you sure you want to spend your life getting rid of another "bitch"?
• Maybe it's up to you. Analyze what preceded the appearance of a rival? Perhaps you have become too cold with your man, you pay little attention to him, or you have no common interests other than everyday life. Try to change yourself, then the rival will disappear, the man himself will leave her when he feels that your relationship has returned to its former channel of romance.

Mistakes that shouldn't be made

If you want to get rid of your rival and not lose your man, then do not commit rash acts:

• Do not scandal, do not be all on your nerves. With interrogations, you are unlikely to find out the whole truth, and it is unlikely that a man will leave a new passion after a scandal with you. You will only fray your nerves, and you will look terrible at the same time. Imagine: you are all "on edge", and she is waiting for him calmly, all so made up, fragrant, tender and sensual. Who do you think he'd like to stay with? With tantrums, you will push him to break off relations with you.
• Don't start yourself up. Yes, it is difficult, especially if you have small children. But keep in mind that a man always sees a rival prepared for a meeting in full, and he thinks on a subconscious level that she is always like that.
• Do not address his relatives: mother, sister. If you ask them to talk to your man about his behavior and they agree, then such brainwashing will only cause anger in him.
• Do not turn to black magicians and sorceresses who promise a love spell "to the grave." In most cases, these are swindlers, and in the minority, they are strong energy vampires who can undermine the karma not only of the opponent, but also of you and your man, spoil the rest of your life by attracting illness and failure.



Do not use methods: intimidate, threaten, send threatening letters or call. Moreover, do not go on to assault and do not persuade anyone to save you from your rival for money in this way. This is all fraught with a criminal case, serious problems with the law and even a prison term.

How to get rid of a rival forever on your own

Try to follow one or more of these tips and maybe things will change for the better:

• Create a novelty effect. Change your image drastically, start a new hobby, change your lifestyle, for example, turn from a homebody into an active girl looking for new experiences and new acquaintances. The goal is to arouse your man's interest in you, to awaken the old feelings that were when you first met. He should again look at you with interest, be carried away by your mystery, activity. Strive for change, don't stand still.
• Develop creatively and professionally. You should always have something to talk about. Imagine: a man comes home later than usual and is silent, anticipating the next scene, and instead of a scandal, smile and enthusiastically tell him the latest news or gossip from the life of mutual acquaintances, drink tea together. Surely he will be surprised by such a turn and he will think about what is happening to you and what to expect next. And then you need to act in the same vein and be nicer and more beautiful than she is.



Pretend that there is no rival at all. A man should feel that you are a self-sufficient person with your own aspirations, goals and interests, able to live brightly and interestingly, and not a gray evil mouse who thinks and lives only one thing: to destroy all attractive women curling around him.

• Make a man pleasant romantic surprises for no reason. He'll come home and you'll be covered in rose petals with a bottle of champagne, or you'll be waiting for him in a bubble bath with lots of little candles around. Dance him a striptease, oriental dances, cook delicious food. Make sure that he wants and waits for the next romantic evening no less than you, then after work he will rush home, and not into the arms of his mistress. Moreover, if you are waiting for him all "such", but he is not and is not there and you understand that she has him, do not turn off the "show program"! Let him come much later than you expected, do not show that something is wrong: do everything as you planned, in full (dinner, bath, striptease ...). If the man returned long after midnight, close your eyes to this and transfer the surprise to the next day. This method is not morally simple, but the effect should be.
• Try to start a romance on the side. Go on vacation without your man or find a lover in your own city. Perhaps your man will be afraid to lose you, will understand that he "smelled of fried", will leave his rival and will beg you to return. However, such a method is fraught with the transition of relations to a more free one: systematic betrayals on the one hand and the other, and life on the principle "no one owes anything to anyone."
• Try to talk to your man directly. Calmly discuss with him the problems of your personal life and the appearance of a rival. Say that you are offended, hurt and unpleasant. Maybe he will reveal to you the reasons that pushed him onto the path of betrayal, and together you decide to change something in your relationship, to work on them.
• Talk to your opponent live, write her a letter or call her by phone. Be calm and balanced. Your goal is to convey to her that a man has a family, that destroying other people's relationships is vile and low. Perhaps the rival is not aware that the man has a family, he did not tell her anything about you, because he considered her as a meaningless affair on the side.

They say that in love, as in war, all means are good. Woman.ru will tell you whether it is necessary to enter into negotiations with the enemy and go on a crusade against your husband if you want to save your family.

About what to do if there are suspicions that the husband is cheating, how to behave when the wife personally knows his mistress, we asked our expert - a psychotherapist, author of five best-selling books, host of the weekly program "Psychologist's Advice" on the Internet TV channel Russia.ru Natalia Tolstaya.

There is a mistress, there is no evidence

By all indications, it still exists, but you have never seen it. The husband is silent, like a partisan, he does not admit to treason. On the one hand, I want to go on the warpath: to track down, to make sure completely, to “catch by the hand” (and not only by the hand). On the other hand, doubts arise - is it worth it, will it suddenly only get worse?

The described situation is one of the most common cases of cheating. Usually married women who have lived with their husband for five to seven years, who already have children, face it (sometimes there are men who behave this way at the stage of meetings).

The most important thing in this case is not to act on a signal whose reliability has not been verified: do not listen to "well-wishers" and especially "well-wishers" who are eager to "open your eyes." If "from her" he still goes home and tries to make excuses - the trump cards are in your hands.

To begin with, you both need a heart-to-heart conversation with something like this leitmotif: your relationship can become a little more free, but always remain true. A well-behaved dog running around the house is much more devoted and grateful to his owner than any dog ​​on a leash who has managed to break free from the chain. He is either angry at the owner, or can run away to his neighbor methodically feeding him. Everything forbidden is sweet! Sometimes the main thing in treason is the adrenaline of meetings, the feeling that you are stealing a piece of freedom from your own life. But to give each other freedom is not so difficult.

I really want to, but still ... I can’t

The less you do theatrical investigations, compare timelines, rummage through your pockets in search of physical evidence, the less headaches will be ... for you, not your husband. Many men are prone to polygamy. Therefore, cheating is not necessarily a sign of insufficient love for you.

Avoid ultimatums. At the words "either I or she" you risk 50/50.

As long as he says that he has no one, take care of his nerves. Act on your own. In a film, until the credits roll, everything can change. Therefore, the script for your relationship will have to be written by you. In the event that you plague your husband with suspicions, and he confesses to the presence of another permanent woman, he is the playwright.

Nothing causes us so much suffering as the passions that live in the soul. All other disasters are from outside, but these are inside, hence the suffering. Only she who can conquer her passions and curb them wins the best of victories.

How to communicate with mom and girlfriends

If you tell about all the nasty things that your husband does, your mother and girlfriends, then they will most likely give you “support”, that is, they will discuss with you (and even not only with you) his bad sides from morning to evening. But the "prodigal parrot" may return. This is your man, which means that he cannot be completely bad. Just a "chick" flew out for a walk. Do you hope to be with him? Do not rush to pour mud on it, be sure to get smeared in it yourself.

In proud loneliness

To endure deception without telling anyone, without relieving the soul, is difficult. Share your doubts with people who are not part of your usual social circle - create a thread on the forum or go to see a psychologist. Do not discuss what is happening with loved ones. After all, deceiving, the husband, perhaps, spares your feelings and is not going to ruin your relationship. Very often, a man, repentant, remains faithful when he realizes the threat to his marriage. Give him the opportunity to capitulate! When you manage to talk, hint that you are able to listen to him. Let him know you love him!

Just do not go too far, do not be humiliated. You are strong and independent, do not forget about it. When you manage to talk, hint that you are ready to listen to him. Don't give up on intimacy. If the husband is ignored, then, left to himself, he will be an easy prey for another.

There is a mistress and you know her

You do not have to be tormented by doubts “is the husband with his mistress” solely because you are aware of his “walks” to the left and are personally acquainted with this woman. What to do is unclear. The choice, however, is not so great: either wait until the river carries the corpse of the enemy by, or proceed to take action itself. Let's put Eastern wisdom aside.

When a woman knows who her husband's mistress is and does nothing at the same time, but only walks and silently worries, thereby, she silently blesses both of them to continue this relationship.

Of course, a husband is not a thing that belongs to you, but still he is a husband, not a boyfriend.

You need to talk to your partner! How to have a dialogue with her? And let's remember how they were filmed in action movies. At an abandoned base, rivals meet to have a heart-to-heart talk - good and bad. The dialogue is going on for a long time. And the audience is sitting at the TV and, without restraining their emotions, “communicate” with the screen - “What are you waiting for, shoot!” Whoever talks more of the heroes is the one who wants to be killed first. Be short and to the point. The main thing that a lover should understand is that you need to bypass. It is desirable to do without foul language, physical injury and dramatic scenes. It is allowed to pour water from a decanter on her and intimidate her quietly in a corner. It doesn't matter what kind of woman she is - of the two of you, the one with the strongest nerves will win.

If you are not ready to communicate with your mistress, you are scared, unpleasant and simply humanly disgusting, refer to the source of problems - the very one that you feed dinner in the evenings. Talk heart to heart with him.

• To be silent and, moreover, to smile in response is impossible unambiguously. The “I” of any person has two sides, one looks inward, the other looks at people. And, if your inner voice screams with indignation, then the outer one must express it. And if you mentally scream to yourself, and nothing comes out, then in six months you will have a place in the neurosis clinic and, as a “gift”, a full bouquet of psychological disorders.
• You must immediately show the full degree of rejection of this situation, do not be afraid to express your dissatisfaction.
• The whole mess - a meeting with a mistress, whom you least of all intended to see in your life, was started by your common man and does not even bother to hide it. There is no time for politeness: all questions are for him! Drink valerian in advance, you may not like his reaction to your words. Say the word "divorce" out loud. See how he takes it. If the husband does not save the marriage, let him be happy without himself. If he stands behind his mistress with a mountain - why talk with her?

Personal power (which is why it begins with the word “I CAN”) is the ability of a person to assess the enemy, respond to danger, and cope with difficulties. Self-respect is usually called personal dignity, which should not be lost under any circumstances. You have the right to be happy!